martes, 7 de noviembre de 2017

Inner Healing 2: Wounds in the Soul

  1. Wounds in your Soul

    1. God says they are real

      1. He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds ( Psalm 147:3 )
      2. He has sent me to heal the brokenhearted ( Isaiah 61:1 )

    2. Definition of emotional wounds

      1. Pain and / or negative feelings (rejection, hatred, humiliation, insecurity, fear, etc.) stored in the heart that seek ways to express themselves (to come to the surface).
      2. "Traumas caused by our failure to deliver our psychological pain to God"
      3. Most wounds are accompanied by memories: mental images that include feelings, concepts, patterns, attitudes, tendencies and actions toward these mental images.

    3. Wounds affect our lives

      1. "Above all else, guard your heart; for everything you do flows from it." (Proverbs 4:23).
      2. See to it that no one falls short of the Grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many. (Hebrews 12:15)
      3. "A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of. " (Luke 6:45 ; Matthew 12:34-35)
      4. For from the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, all sexual immorality, theft, lying, and slander. These are what defile you. (Matthew 15: 19-20)
      5. These passages teach us that from what has been stored in our hearts (resentment, hatred, bitterness, hostility, memories that hurt), emanate the things that poison our inner life and our relationship with God and with others. This is what defiles and corrupts others. The condition of our hearts is what determines the level of fulfillment we experience in Christ (the quality of the life we have).

  2. Elements in the formation of wounds

    (start making your list of things you remember)

    1. External factors

      1. Inherited context
        Scenarios you lived in product of decisions of past generations:
        1. Country in crisis or on trial (Israel and Jeremiah)
        2. born in a context of slavery (Israel in Egypt: Exodus 2:23)
        3. lived in a dysfunctional family (Ishmael: Genesis 21:8-21), etc.
        4. born as bastard (Jephthah: Judges 11)
      2. Peoples' sinful decisions
        bad attitudes, decisions and actions that other people make against you (consciously or unconsciously), or decisions that bring about negative effects on your life.
        1. humiliations
        2. Abuse and oppression (Judges 6: 2,6)
        3. Injustices
        4. physical abuse, etc.
      3. Tragedies
        Not necessarily product of sinful decisions from other people but accidents and things from which we have no control.
        1. Car accidents leading to the loss of a loved one
        2. The death of a parent
        3. Falls from ladders
        4. Chokes
      4. Weaknesses in our personality or physical. 
        There are things in yourself that can make you more vulnerable to be emotionally wounded.
        1. Your height, skin color, complexion, or deformation in an inadequate social context 
        2. There are people more sensitive and vulnerable to be wounded ... other people are so clueless that don't realize the mockery and offensiveness from other people.

    2. Internal factors

      1. The mentality (how you perceive the facts)
        You can be raised in a perfect context, but your sinful and imperfect perception may misinterpret reality.
        1. Your parents didn't buy that thing you wanted and you take it as a lack of love for you.
        2. Your big brother in collage was allowed to do things that your parents didn't allow you.
        3. You think people dont' love you because they don't do what you ask them.
        4. Some one didn't greeted you ... (the real deal is that he didn´t see you because he wasn't wearing his glasses)
        5. You were not invited ... (they actually did but you didn't receive the messages).
      2. Emotions (how you feel the facts)
        1. The girl who gets upset because was not invited to participate in the school dancing  (because there were not enough boys).
        2. They give you a gift ... and you feel undervalued and not loved because it was not the "supergift you were expecting"
        3. You feel that your dad does not love you because he will not let go out with your friends ... when it is precisely the opposite.
      3. Your will (how you react to the facts)
        1. You choose not to forgive, not to love (hate), to have revenge.
        2. You choose to believe your life is ruined.
        3. You decide to distrust God's promises.

    3. The damage to your soul: always the product of your sinful reactions.

      Don’t be afraid of those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather, be afraid,of The One who can destroy both soul and body in hell. (Matthew 10:28)
      1. People can produce pain or loss ... but no harm to your soul:
        1. Neither the pain nor the loss (physical or emotional) produce the wound. The injury or damage to the soul (if we consider them synonyms) it is produced by not knowing how to deal properly with pain, with that negative feeling that accumulates in your heart.
        2. We say "he or she wounded my heart" as if an injury was made... but really it is just the pain or loss, not a real wound.
      2. You are responsible for your own injuries (damages to your soul).
        1. The heart is damaged from within (by your reaction), not from outside (for what they do to you)
        2. This means: you can not blame anyone for your wounds (for damaging your soul), for screwing your life.
        3. If so, the enemies of Christ would have had the power to ruin His life ... but they did not.
        4. That is why within the same tribulations and adverse situations, some people thrive and prosper and others sink and succumb.
      3. Pains and losses in Christ far from damaging your soul, only bring benefit to you (Romans 8:28)

  3. Pain storage

    1. Mind: improper storage of pain

      Counsel in the heart of man is like deep water, but a man of understanding will draw it out. (Proverbs 20:5)
      1. Conscious
        Those things in your mind to which you are paying attention and are aware of.
      2. Subconscious
        That information in our mind that you can remember or recall it to "bring it to the conscious level".
        1. Most beliefs operate at this level
      3. Unconscious
        Information that you can not remember, or that you are not aware that is even there recorded.
        1. Feelings, unconscious motivations
        2. repressed memories
        3. Those forgotten things that you can not remember 
        4. ... Does time heals?

    2. Because of the way our heart (mind) is wired, God does this:

      1. He gives us his word 
        For the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires. (Hebrews 4:12)
      2. He puts us in the right situations 
        Remember how the Lord your God led you all the way in the wilderness these forty years, to humble and test you in order to know what was in your heart, whether or not you would keep his commands.(Deuteronomy 8:2)
      3. He gives us insight (understanding: Proverbs 20:5) 
        But Jesus, knowing their thoughts, said, “Why do you think evil in your hearts? (Matthew 9:4, Mark 2:8)

    4. God, the right storage for pain

      1. Pour out your heart like water before the presence of the Lord (Lamentations 2:19)
      2. Pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge. (Psalm 62:8)
      3. Your comforter: You bring to him your pain and He returns you the comfort.
        1. You have turned my mourning into joyful dancing.(Psalm 30:11)
        2. To bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning,
          and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. (Isaiah 61:3)
      4. Is a relationship with God necessary for healing?

  4. Anatomy of a wound not healed (analogy of a physical injury)

    1. Pain or negative feelings

    2. Bitterness or depression (lack of forgiveness or hope)

      1. For any person or situation

    3. Hypersensitivity in the affected area

      1. Which prompts a state of alert
      2. The slightest "touch" causes pain in that area.

    4. Negative expectancy

      1. A fear that anyone may do it to you again.
      2. Example of a "paper cut"

    5. Distorted perception

      1. Your bad experiences become a filter by which you see things (of rejection, abuse, neglect)
      2. It depends on you not to receive the good, because you are stuck in the bad that you are expecting.
      3. Because of the hypersensitivity, even a caress can be interpreted as an attack toward you.
      4. My example with authority
      5. Couple from Canada.
      6. Therefore we reject those who do not match with our wounds, those who don't give us what our wounds expect.

    6. Output mechanisms (forms of expression) 

      1. The different ways in which the wound is expressed.
      2. The pain inevitably will come out expressing itself in some form or another.
      3. Symptoms: can detect our wounds by the symptoms.
        1. "The over-makeup", "I do not take pictures", "things to draw attention", "outburst of anger", etc.

  5. Original design

    1. ¿what does a young child do when he when cuts himself?

      1. Runs crying with her dad-mom
      2. His dad heals the wound
      3. His dad binds up the wound
      4. His dad gives him words of comfort.

    2. The union with God and the original man

      1. And the Lord God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; 17 but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die.”(Genesis 2:16-16)

    3. Separation

      1. Disobedience:
        She saw that the tree was beautiful and its fruit looked delicious, and she wanted the wisdom it would give her. So she took some of the fruit and ate it. Then she gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it, too. (Genesis 3:6)
      2. It brought physical death:  
        By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground, since from it you were taken; for dust you are and to dust you will return (Genesis 3:19)
      3. It brought spiritual death:  
        So He drove out the man; and He placed cherubim at the east of the garden of Eden, and a flaming sword which turned every way, to guard the way to the tree of life. (Genesis 3:24)
      4. Death of our soul
        We did not have any longer a safe place to deposit for our emotional pain, nobody to comfort us, nor access to God's love to feel out our hearts (because his Spirit was gone).

    4. Jesus, the Anointed One, who came to restore our relationship with God

      1. It was the secret of his health and his victory
        1. Anointed, "He in whom is the Spirit of God" (the second Adam: 1 Corinthians 15:45-47) 
        2. Don’t you believe that I am in the Father and the Father is in me? The words I speak are not my own, but my Father who lives in me does his work through me. (John 14:10)
        3. His relationship with his father was the secret of his health and his victory .... he ran to his Father to unload his pain. He did not had a cheap positivism, but a genuine consolation from the Father of all comfort.
      2. And He shares his secret with us
        1. Father, just as you are in me and I am in you, may they also be in us so that the world may believe that you have sent me. (John 17:21)
        2.  For if, while we were God´s enemies, we were reconciled to him through the death of his Son, how much more, having been reconciled, shall we be saved through his life. Not only is this so, but we also boast in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation. (Romans 5:10-11)
        3. On the evening of that first day ...  he breathed on them and said, “Receive the Holy Spirit. (John 20:19-20)
        4. The Spirit you received does not make you slaves, so that you live in fear again, rather, the Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship. And by him we cry, "Abba Father." The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God´s children. (Romans 8:15-16)
        5. But in fact, it is best for you that I go away, because if I don’t, the Comforter won’t come. If I do go away, then I will send him to you. (John 16:7)
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